EVER REST w/ Only I, Grizzly Adams & The Evercold @ The Tote, June 2014


Endometriosis is a condition in which endometrium, the tissue that normally lines the womb (uterus), grows outside the uterus.



Fibroids, or myomas, are growths or benign tumours that form inside the uterus (womb). Fibroids are not cancer.



Hysterectomy is the surgical removal of the womb (uterus), with or without the removal of the ovaries. This procedure is used to treat a variety of conditions, including heavy or painful periods, fibroids and endometriosis. Hysterectomy should be a last resort when all other treatments have failed.


I decided to be as productive as possible during the 3 hours I had to wait with mum to be admitted into surgery at Dandenong Hospital and so I used that time to study for my last exam on Foundation Physics. We had to transverse from the waiting area to a more private ward several times to meet with the anaesthetist, surgeon, doctor, nurse and pharmacist. Finally around 2pm, mum was finally ready to go in to get her fibroids removed from the uterus. For months they had be causing her a great deal of pain and unfortunately the hysterectomy was her only option in terms of treatment as the fibroids were too deeply embedded. It was a huge decision for mum who had considering having a second child a few years earlier but now at the age of 47, her risk factors are rapidly increasing and the chance of a miscarriage or other abnormal birth defects is way too high to consider pregnancy. Her family, friends and myself all agreed that she was making the right decision and despite shitty timing with my exam the next day, it had to be done.


Yesterday as I parked my car in the side-street adjacent to Merinda Park station, a neighbour from across the street said “You know you can park at the station?” in a condescending, why the fuck are you parking in my street? tone. I honestly don’t know what his issue was as legally I am allowed to park where I do and it wasn’t even on his side of the street. Clearly he had a stick up his ass and was trying to start some shit with me for the sake of it. I took the high road and ignored him. In the exam room, I was flustered as hell and feeling pretty anxious about this last exam despite doing a week of revision and going over the past exam papers many times. The time was definitely not on my side as I kept glancing up at the clock and was really feeling the pressure. It was 29 pages long and several of the questions I bullshitted my way through as I just can’t allow myself to leave a blank space. Thankfully I knew what I was doing for most of it and walked away feeling confident with 5 minutes to spare. The biggest weight was lifted from my shoulders, that I did the best job I could. Naturally on the train home, I overanalysed some of the things I should and could have written down but I really needed to let it go.


Tonight was about celebrating all the hard work and effort I’ve put into this semester at uni and that mum got through her procedure okay. At times I still wonder to myself why at 28 years old, I still can’t hold a conversation with people and that the things I do say are relatively brief and at times stumbled over. Of course I’ve accepted the fact that I’m introverted and quiet but it’s still difficult to fit in when three-quarters of the room doesn’t even know who you are. Still I managed to do the best I could with the people who do know me, all of which are band members but I also regard them as friends.


THE EVERCOLD…it’s been quite some time since I last saw these boys play and so it was lovely to see them play again. I always feel humbled and inspired by their performance as they deliver such a positive message to the audience. The humourour banter from the other band members between songs was also good to see. Big respect to vocalist CJ who personally came up to me and thanked me for coming. It might not seem like much to some people but I truly appreciate the fact that my support means something.


GRIZZLY ADAMS…this was my first time seeing this Sydney based melodic hardcore outfit. Vocalist Jarrad tore up the floor in the front of the stage, bringing heaps of energy and managed to get some movement happening within the crowd. These guys were really tight. I hope they come back to Melbourne to play more shows soon.


ONLY I…the first noticeable difference was the absence of Michael Higgins, the cleans vocalist. As it turns out, he decided to part ways with the band and so vocalist Josh Westwick had to juggle dual roles throughout the whole set with bassist Jose helping out with cleans. I have to say this was one of their tightest performances to date and I think that through all the lineup changes, they have managed to become stronger musically and performance wise.


EVER REST…I was actually able to stay for the whole set this time and I’m glad I did. These guys just came back from a recent tour of Indonesia and their set tonight was fucking amazing. The crowd was getting involved at times (mind you this venue was a shoebox but sometimes intimate gigs work really well) and vocalist Adrian dropped his classic freestyle into the mix. Big props to him for recognising how much time and effort I put into the local music scene. Ultimately that’s all I want above anything else. I generally don’t expect anything in return because my passion for this scene is real and I love doing it. I ended up bumping to Rhys and Elijah at Dandenong station, freezing our asses off as we had to wait a painful 35 minutes for a Cranbourne train but that’s public transport for you.

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